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Wow, that was fun! I am so happy that the conversation about Black adoption is going national.

Thanks Huffington Post and for keeping this topic alive.

I’ve been asked to participate in a Huffington Post Live Web Cast. Yay!! If you’d like to follow along, here is the link to the segment so you can share: at 10:50 a.m. PST We’ll be talking about my article, “Why I Decided to Adopt Without a Partner” and about Black people and adoption.

30 Days to 30

Originally posted on Yesterday, I was a Mom:

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Happy New Year!

It seems I fell off the blogging horse once my feet touched Chinese soil. It definitely hasn’t been for a lack of experiences. This blog’s origin was my journey to foster care, being a single foster mom and then her transitioning to adoption. I think my heart wasn’t ready for this space to be shared in a different capacity. However, it has been roughly six months now. I’m ready to write.

I’m starting off my return to blogging with a celebration of life and it’s blessing and lessons. They won’t be in any particular order.

I’m sharing 30 memories for 30 days until my 30th birthday on February 9th (China Time).

Okay….here I go.

30 DAYS TO 30


This picture was taken in the Summer of 2001 in beautiful Italy. It was before starting my Junior year of high school. I remember being absolutely psyched that my family…

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So excited that my essay made it into the HuffPost! Thanks

Fortunately, I wasn’t pressed about being pregnant and let fantasies of Darius from Love Jones go. Don’t get me wrong — having a mate would be great, but what my life needed at that moment was a child through adoption.

via Why I Decided to Adopt Without a Partner | mater mea.

One of my favorite childhood plays/movies, “Annie”, has been revised. Here is an article about overloaded social workers and a broken system that continue to stand in the way of good homes for children in need.

The average length of stay in foster care for a child is 33 months. The longer children are in the system, the more likely they are to experience multiple placements. This kind of instability leads to even greater problems for children whose lives are often in chaos to begin with.

via Our troubled foster system needs more support, good parents | New York Post.

It is my pleasure to have an article posted on If you haven’t seen it, check it out!

A dear friend shared his story with me and now I share it with you.


When Alvin decided to adopt, he wasn’t ready for response from his communities.

via A Grandmother’s Legacy: A Single Black Gay Man Adopts -.

I just met this wonderful couple who have adopted two children. Elaine and Mignon, a same sex African American couple, represent a demographic rarely discussed in the media and share some of their journey with the Huffington Post.

Check out Mignon’s book, Invisible Families: Gay Identities, Relationships and Motherhood Among Black Women.


“We had some friends who became parents through foster-adoption,” said Elaine, a graphic designer who specializes in web design and branding. “Mignon’s own parents adopted children through the foster care system as well, so we had models for successful outcomes that we could draw upon.

via Mignon And Elaine’s Story From The Let Love Define Family Series.

My son demoted me, his only parent, to the No. 2 position in his life. In this short article, I explain why losing the top spot will be a relief.


In the cracker aisle at the grocery store, my seven-year-old informed me that when his dad comes I’ll be his second best parent in the world.

via Single Mom Files: Why I Don’t Claim Mother and Father Status |

Time to come clean about how difficult it is parent two children solo. In this short piece, I tell of how I came to the decision to ask for help.



Last November, I burned my super-woman cape and made the decision to adopt a second child; a girl this time. Suddenly, my carefully crafted house of cards tumbled into a mass of toys on the floor, Baby Einstein DVDs, and late night diaper changes. How I would juggle a seven year old and a 10-month-old as a single working mother was beyond me.

via Why I Stopped Being a Super Mom Woman |


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